Throughout life, everyone tends to develop expectations for how they want certain things to go. Sometimes those expectations become a reality and other times they don’t.
Over the last few months, I made a few personal changes in my life that were difficult for me. During this time, all I could think about was moving back to Gainesville and starting school again. I started creating expectations of how the beginning of my sophomore year would go, never once thinking that all of those expectations had the possibility of not coming true.
My expectations were sky high and I relied on them to get through the challenges I was facing in my personal life. I wanted these expectations to be the bright light at the end of the dark tunnel I felt like I was currently in. However, expectations are not concrete and that was something I quickly realized at the start of the school year.
After not getting into a sorority or any of the other organizations I planned on being a part of this year, I was left feeling hopeless and worthless. I felt like everything that could possibly go wrong in my personal and academic life in the last month or so, went wrong. I let not getting a bid or a position in the other organizations break me down. It took until very recently for me to realize that I should have never let that happen.
Not everything goes according to plan and that is completely okay. Life has a funny way of always working out in the end. I don’t think I’m at the end of this situation yet, but I can see how having these expectations not come true has made me a stronger person. This situation forced me to have to deal with the personal emotions I was trying to escape from. It made me join an organization that I probably never would have thought to join before. It made me get more involved within my own major. It made me meet and befriend people that are very different from myself. It pushed me outside my comfort zone for the better.
Most of all, I accepted that everything in my life happens for a reason. This is a concept I always preach to others when life doesn’t go their way, but when it came to my own life, it was a little harder to accept.
I’m not saying you shouldn’t have any expectations, ever. Having expectations is normal and it’s hard to go through life without having them. Just don’t revolve your whole idea of what your college experience should be like on a set of plans that could change. There are so many different opportunities available to you in college, you just have to search for them. I did just that and I couldn’t be happier with where I am at today.